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  1. Grief and Bereavement Counselling in Basingtoke and Alton HampshireGrieving is a normal response to loss, whether it is loss of a loved one, loss of health, loss of a job or divorce.

    As a society however, we find it difficult to talk about death, dying and loss, which can make loss a silent and isolating experience. This can make the passage of grieving difficult, as it is human nature to want to tell our story, allowing us to incorporate our experience into our lives and continue our journey.

    It may be hard for family and friends to hear your story as they do not want you to be in pain and they may also be dealing with their own emotions. The passage of time can bring certain preconceptions that the grieving process should have ended. However, anniversaries, birthdays and family occasions can heighten our sense of loss and re-trigger the grieving process. It can seem as though family and friends have 'moved on' and expect the same from you.

    Counselling allows you the time and space to tell your story and be heard, to have someone alongside you who can bear your pain and is present for you alone. As a person-centred counsellor I will be independent from your experience but will not be distanced from you.

    I recognise the need for you to fully experience your grief by offering a safe and contained place for the exploration of all of your emotions, without judgment or preconceptions.

    The process of telling your story allows your loss to become integrated into your every day life, and for your loved one to be remembered and to remain part of your life, without the pain of your loss being unbearable.

     

    Please visit my links page for further details of online support and information.

    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss. 

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 30 minute introductory session.

  2. Counselling for miscarriage and pregnancy loss in Basingstoke and Alton in Hampshire
    The loss of a baby at whatever stage, be it miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, termination for abnormality, stillbirth or neonatal loss, can be a devastating and isolating experience
    .  Very often there has been medical intervention, pain and associated trauma, which can deepen and extend the grieving process.

    However, the physical aspects of losing a baby are only part of the bereavement experience; there are also the loss of precious and personal hopes and dreams for and about your baby and the person they were to become. Sadly, couples may grieve very differently and there can be relationship hardships as a result.

    Counselling offers the chance for you to talk about your loss, either individually or as a couple. There is very often the need to create and nurture memories of your baby, no matter how small. Sometimes, having got though the initial distress, due dates, Birthdays and Christmases arrive, which can heighten the sense of loss again.

    For some, all that is needed are a couple of counselling sessions to allow time and space to tell their story without concern that others have ‘moved on’ and expect the same from you. Others may require more sessions to address deeper set issues that have arisen from their loss.

    Everyone is different and only you can know how you feel. We can discuss your needs and expectations in the initial consultation.

     

    Please visit my links page for further details of online and support and information.

     

    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke  in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss. 

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 30 minute introductory session.

    Debbie Kelly Counselling in Basingstoke and Alton Hampshire