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  1. About Counselling and Grief and Bereavement

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    Grief and Bereavement Counselling in Basingtoke and Alton HampshireGrieving is a normal response to loss, whether it is loss of a loved one, loss of health, loss of a job or divorce.

    As a society however, we find it difficult to talk about death, dying and loss, which can make loss a silent and isolating experience. This can make the passage of grieving difficult, as it is human nature to want to tell our story, allowing us to incorporate our experience into our lives and continue our journey.

    It may be hard for family and friends to hear your story as they do not want you to be in pain and they may also be dealing with their own emotions. The passage of time can bring certain preconceptions that the grieving process should have ended. However, anniversaries, birthdays and family occasions can heighten our sense of loss and re-trigger the grieving process. It can seem as though family and friends have 'moved on' and expect the same from you.

    Counselling allows you the time and space to tell your story and be heard, to have someone alongside you who can bear your pain and is present for you alone. As a person-centred counsellor I will be independent from your experience but will not be distanced from you.

    I recognise the need for you to fully experience your grief by offering a safe and contained place for the exploration of all of your emotions, without judgment or preconceptions.

    The process of telling your story allows your loss to become integrated into your every day life, and for your loved one to be remembered and to remain part of your life, without the pain of your loss being unbearable.

     

    Please visit my links page for further details of online support and information.

    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss. 

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 30 minute introductory session.

  2. About Counselling and Depression

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    Many people experience low moods from time to time, but people suffering from depression can find it difficult to function in day to day life.

    Depression happens along a spectrum from mild to severe and can be of a chronic or long term nature, or acute with sudden onset.

    Common Symptoms of depression:

      • Disliking yourself or other people in general
      • Being preoccupied with negative thoughts, always seeing the worst in everything
      • Feeling irritable and intolerant
      • Lacking in energy and finding daily tasks an effort
      • Sleep disturbances, whether too much or too little
      • Altered appetite, eating too much or too little
      • Isolating yourself from others who would otherwise provide your support network
      • Tearfulness or shutting down of emotions

    Counselling can provide a space for you to express how you are feeling, helping you to identify coping strategies and ways to self-manage your symptoms. In cases of acute depression, there is often an underlying reason that can be explored in counselling, such as bereavement, loss of job or marital and family difficulties. Discussing these problems can alleviate the symptoms and make informed decisions clearer for you.

    In cases of severe depression, where your mood is very low, you may experience thoughts of self-harm. It is important to contact your doctor if this is the case as you may require medical treatment to alleviate your symptoms. Counselling can be used as a form of therapy along side medication from your doctor; it is important to discuss this with your doctor and counsellor for an effective collaborative approach.

     

    Please visit my links page for further details about online support and information.

     

    Debbie Kelly MSc is an experienced counsellor working in Basingstoke in North Hampshire.  She sees clients experiencing life challenges concerning anxiety, depression, work stress, grief and bereavement, relationship difficulties and miscarriage/pregnancy loss. 

    Contact Debbie on 07590 572866 or email to arrange a free 30 minute introductory session.

    Break through Depression with Counselling in Basingstoke and Alton Hampshire